Introductions
What an Introduction Leaves Unsaid
A thoughtful introduction offers enough context to begin, while leaving room for the first meeting to reveal ease…
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All articles
Browse articles on introductions, preferences, compatibility, conversation and expectations. Each piece takes one question at a time and leaves room for your own judgement.
Preferences
Must-Haves and Nice-to-Haves: A Preference Sort
Sort dating must-haves from nice-to-haves with a clear method for protecting your real priorities while making room…
Compatibility
The Matchmaking Profile Before the Profile
Trace how matchmaking profiles relate to earlier forms of introduction, and see what public notices, personal letters…
Expectations
The Shared-Hobby Shortcut: Why Liking the Same Things Is Not Compatibility
Shared-hobby compatibility depends on how two people approach an interest, not just the activity. Learn what to ask…
Conversation
A First Conversation with Space to Listen
A first conversation with space to listen helps you share your views, respond with care and decide whether you want to…
Our point of view
A match is a meeting, not a formula
Compatibility is not a score that can tell you what to choose. We offer prompts and context to help you think clearly and make your own decisions.